Mahek

Sanity

2008-06-05T12:53:00.000+05:30

As Much As i Love yoU

2008-05-21T11:00:00.001+05:30

There is something special

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Because of You

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What maw Heart tells mawself

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Love or Life

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Please Be Careful with maw Heart

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say You Love Me

2008-04-25T12:36:00.001+05:30

Longing For You

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Thinking Of You

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Fallin'

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Believe

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I Cant Live Without You

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I Cant Live Without You

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All Mine

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Dear Friend

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i beg...

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Our Love Like Red Rose

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Our love is that of a red rose
Whose splendor rises as the sun shows its face,
Whose petals expand further and richer
Whispering secrets of happiness and affection.

And even though with the fall of dusk
All contentment is swept away,
And the rose's petals unite as one
Reflecting any light that may endeavor to shine through,
The sun will always rise
And the rose's petals will eternally broaden
Until they fully blossom into a stunning creation.

Our love is that of a red rose
Possessing a few imperfections
That may cause evanescent wounds,
But the internal radiance
That will everlastingly bestow healing and comfort.

Believe In Yourself

2007-09-24T10:15:00.000+05:30

There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren't the way you had hoped they would be. That's when you have to tell yourself that things will get better.

There are times when people disappoint you and let you down.
But those are the times when you remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions, to keep your life focused on believing in yourself.

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life, and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you. It may not be easy at times, but in those times of struggles, you will find a stronger sense of who you are.

So when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities, remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be.

Because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

Keep believing in yourself.

My Heart

2007-08-10T15:55:00.001+05:30

Little Miss Sensible

2007-08-01T17:26:00.000+05:30

You’re well balanced. You weigh your pros and cons before getting too serious about anyone. You like to take things as they come and are in no hurry to hear wedding bells! You like boys who are confident and even though you don’t rush into things, it doesn’t mean that you don’t think about him at all - you make an effort to look extra nice when you’ll meet and if he goes out of town you DO miss him! You’re logical where relationships are concerned and aren’t scared of your feelings but you do prefer to take your cues from your boyfriend when saying the L – word – that way, you’ll know he’s really into you when you say it back!

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing

2007-07-21T11:51:00.000+05:30

by Jelaila Starr

How to clear the negative emotions in our bodies is a process that most of us have never been taught to do. Society does not give much credence to this work. Consequently, when we do try to clear, because we do not know the stages that humans go through in order to release painful emotions, we get stuck. For many, this leads to feelings of frustration and so they just give up. But when we give up, we do so at a price. When conflicts remain unresolved, their associated emotions remain, creating energetic imbalances in the body on the physical level that lead to illness. On the mental level, they can create bi-polar disorders and, in some cases, depression. On the emotional level, they lead us to either act out in destructive ways such as raging, or in covert ways, using passive/aggressive behavior. All of these things are destructive to our personal relationship with our Inner Children, not to mention our relationships with others.

The 7 Stages of Emotional Clearing are given as a roadmap to help you navigate the stages of clearing that each person experiences in order to fully and completely clear negative pain associated with a conflict or other negative event from the body.

The 7 Stages

1. Trigger
2. Identify Trigger through anger
3. Projection and blaming
4. Express and release anger and pain
5. Look for and find the mirror
6. Own the mirror
7. Clear the mirror

1. Trigger

A trigger occurs when someone violates a personal boundary or agreement.

2. Identifying the trigger through anger

Once triggered, you react with anger or, if not anger, at least a sense that something is not right.

Note: Many people get stuck here because they have learned to immediately stuff their anger when it occurs. An example would be saying to yourself, “Oh, it’s just not worth getting upset over.”

3. Projection and Blaming

If you are angry, the next thing you do is blame someone for it. We call this “projecting” because you are putting the blame for your pain on someone else.

Note: Many people project and blame but they don’t go past this point and express it to the person with whom they are upset.

4. Express and release anger and pain

This is the step in which you vent your anger toward the accused. Expressing can take various forms depending on the intensity of the violation and trigger. Mild violations may require just speaking up about it. Stronger violations may require speaking up and a few choice cuss words to clear the pain and so on.

Note: Most people will stop short of this step because they believe they don’t feel comfortable and/or they don’t have the right to express their anger. In that case, passive/aggressive behavior will ensue because anger must have a release.

5. Look for and find the mirror
Once the anger has been expressed, logic can return. Now and only now can you begin to look for how you have co-created the situation. Beginning with Steps 1—3 of the Formula of Compassion, you look for the lesson, contract and role that the other person is playing.

Tip: If you are not able to talk with your guides to get the information you need to find the mirror, try starting with Step 4 of the Formula. Ask yourself, “What fear is the other person expressing through their behavior?” Once you figure out what the fear is, you then ask, “What belief is triggering that fear?” By doing this, you are tracing your way back to the belief that is at the root of the behavior. Keep this rule in mind: Beliefs create fears which we then act out through our behavior.

6. Own the mirror

Step 4 of the Formula of Compassion is where you recognize the aspect of you that the other person is reflecting or mirroring back to you. It is always a behavior motivated by fear. At that same moment of recognition, you will also be able to acknowledge that you have done the same thing that you have been judging that person for doing. If you truly see this, the anger and pain will quickly turn to empathy and sadness because you understand, first-hand, the fear that drives you both to that behavior.

Note: You may have already completed this step if you used the tip provided in Stage 5.

7. Clear the mirror

Steps 5-9 of the Formula of Compassion are completed in this stage.

Now that you have found the fear that motivated the behavior, the next step is to ask yourself, “What belief triggered that behavior?” This is usually a core belief such as, “I must be perfect in order to have the right to exist.” Once you find the belief, you now have the gift; the recognition of that belief and the opportunity to change it.

At this point there is a sudden shift in your body. The empathy and sadness shift to overwhelming appreciation and gratitude for the other person as all anger, pain, and blame are transmuted. In this moment you release the other person totally and completely. You then apologize and validate the other person’s pain.

Step 9 of the Formula of Compassion: Your only thought now is how to thank the other person for the gift. You do this by thanking them with a heart full of appreciation and gratitude. They will feel this. Once completed, you have cleared the mirror. The conflict is over and peace, love and harmony is reestablished. But there is an even greater reward; each party feels a greater degree of trust in the relationship because they know that when conflicts arise, each party will stay to work through the conflict and not run.

Lonely

2007-07-20T10:26:00.001+05:30

Forget

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Morning to Mawworld

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A new day, wanting a fresh start...

PEACE & LOVE
thats all required ...

Love is Understanding

2007-07-19T14:06:00.000+05:30

You've heard it said: "Love is patient and kind." If love is patient, it may be because love is truly understanding.

Do you know what the most common craving is among pregnant women? (I'm sure this is factual.) The most common craving among pregnant women is not spicy food, pickles or ice cream. Not even close. It is for MEN to get pregnant.

Why? Because then they would know what it is like! Then they might be more patient. What most women need during times of cravings, discomfort, swollen ankles and morning sickness is... understanding.

Much of our conflict is simply misunderstanding. As a new bride, one woman moved into the small home on her husband's ranch in the mountains. She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her husband never to touch it.

For 50 years he left the box alone, until his life partner was old and dying. One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and thought it might hold something important.

Opening it, he discovered two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to her and asked about the contents.

"My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at you."

Her husband was touched that in 50 years she'd only been upset enough to make two doilies.

"What's the $82,500 for?" he asked.

She explained, "Oh, well that's the money I've made selling the doilies."

Marge Piercy beautifully said, "Life is the first gift, love is the second and understanding is the third." But it is love that gives us life and understanding that brings about love.

Making doilies might take your mind off the problem, but it won't change anything. The path from conflict to love is not by way of arts and crafts. It is through the valley of understanding.

Every tear

2007-07-19T11:24:00.001+05:30

So Far Yet So Close...

2007-07-18T17:29:00.001+05:30

Because she would asked Me why I loved her

2007-07-06T14:14:00.000+05:30

A pledge to you my love

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Alwaz N Forever

2007-07-02T16:58:00.000+05:30

Bonding

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Follow Me

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No Good Byes

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Lessons of Life

2007-06-04T13:49:00.000+05:30

I feared being alone
until I learned to like myself.

I feared failure
until I realized that I only
fail when I don't try.

I feared success
until I realized that I had to try
in order to be happy with myself.

I feared people's opinions
until I learned that
people would have opinions about me anyway.

I feared rejection
until I learned to have faith in myself.

I feared pain
until I learned that
it's necessary for growth.

I feared the truth
until I saw the ugliness in lies.

I feared life
until I experienced its beauty.

I feared death
until I realized that it's
not an end, but a beginning.

I feared my destiny,
until I realized that
I had the power to change my life.

I feared hate
until I saw that it
was nothing more than ignorance.

I feared love
until it touched my heart,
making the darkness fade
into endless sunny days.

I feared ridicule
until I learned how to laugh at myself.

I feared growing old
until I realized that
I gained wisdom every day.

I feared the future
until I realized that
life just kept getting better.

I feared the past
until I realized that
it could no longer hurt me.

I feared the dark
until I saw the beauty
of the starlight.

I feared the light
until I learned that the
truth would give me strength.

I feared change,
until I saw that
even the most beautiful butterfly
had to undergo a metamorphosis
before it could fly.

I'll be the one...

2007-05-31T11:57:00.000+05:30

I'll be the one to love you
When you're feeling sad and blue
I'll be the one to help you
When the road's too rough for you.

I'll be the one to hold you
When the world has let you down
I'll be the one to save you
And turn it all around.

I'll be the one to let you know
How much you mean to me
I'll be the one to tell you
You're the only one I need.

I'll be the one to miss you
If you ever go away
I'll be the one whose love will grow
Throughout each passing day.

I chose to love you in silence
for in silence I find no rejection
I chose to love you in loneliness
for in loneliness i felt no pain...

Life

2007-05-31T10:45:00.000+05:30

When I Asked for Strength
I got Difficult Situations to Face

When I Asked for Brain & Brown
I got Puzzles in Life to Solve

When I Asked for Happiness
I was Showed Some Unhappy People

When I Asked for Wealth
I was Showed How to Work Hard

When I Asked for Favors
I was Showed Opportunities to Work Hard

When I Asked for Peace
I was Showed How to Help Others

I got Nothing I Wanted
BUT I got Everything I Needed

Need you alwaz

2007-05-31T10:34:00.000+05:30

There's a lot of things that happened in my Life

that I really regret. But one thing is for sure, I

treasured and kept in my heart the friendship

I got from you. It's one of the few things I wont regret.

My Inspiration

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Why Do I Love you

2007-05-29T11:35:00.000+05:30

Why do I love You

I love you

Not only for what you are

But for what I am

When I am with you

I love you

Not only for what

You have made of yourself

But for what

You are making of me

I love you

For ignoring the possibilities

Of the fool in me

And for laying firm hold

Of the possibilities for good

Why do I lov you

I love you

For closing your eyes

To the discords

And for adding to the music in me

By worshipful listening

I love you because you

Are helping me to make

Of the lumber of my life

Not a tavern

But a temple

And out of the words

Of my every day

Not a reproach

But a song

I love you

Because you have done

More than any creed

To make me happy

You have done it

Without a word

Without a touch

Without a sign

You have done it

Just by being yourself

After all Perhaps that is what

love means

What keeps me going...

2007-05-28T16:37:00.001+05:30

CONFIDENCE

Once, all village people decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer all people gathered and only one boy came with an Umbrella, that's Confidence

TRUST

Trust should be like the feeling of a one year old baby when you throw him in the air, he laughs...... because he knows you will catch him; that's Trust

HOPE

Every night we go to bed, we have no assurance to get up alive in the next morning but still you have plans for the coming day; that’s Hope

Love Me Always...

2007-05-28T16:35:00.000+05:30

Important to have friends...

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20 Golden Rules of My Life

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1. Marry the right person . This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

2. Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.

3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

6. Be generous.

7. Have a grateful heart.

8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

12. Commit yourself to quality.

13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationship with people you love and respect.

14. Be loyal.

15. Be honest.

16. Be a self-starter.

17. Be decisive even it it means you'll sometimes be wrong.

18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.

20. Take good care of those you love

10 Rulezz for My Good day today...

2007-05-28T11:52:00.000+05:30

1. TODAY I WILL NOT STRIKE BACK:
If someone is rude, if someone is impatient, if someone is unkind...
I will not respond in a like manner.

2. TODAY I WILL ASK GOD TO BLESS MY "ENEMY":
If I come across someone who treats me harshly or unfairly, I will
quietly ask God to bless that individual. I understand the "enemy"
could be a family member, neighbor, co-worker, or a stranger.

3. TODAY I WILL BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT I SAY:
I will carefully choose and guard my words being certain that I do
not spread gossip.

4. TODAY I WILL GO THE EXTRA MILE:
I will find ways to help share the burden of another person.

5. TODAY I WILL FORGIVE:
I will forgive any hurts or injuries that come my way.

6. TODAY I WILL DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE,
BUT I WILL NOT DO IT SECRETLY:
I will reach out anonymously and bless the life of another.

7. TODAY I WILL TREAT OTHERS THE WAY I WISH TO BE
TREATED:
I will practice the golden rule - "Do unto others as I would have
them do unto me" - with everyone I encounter.

8. TODAY I WILL RAISE THE SPIRITS OF SOMEONE I
DISCOURAGED:
My smile, my words, my expression of support, can make the
difference to someone who is wrestling life.

9. TODAY I WILL NUTURE MY BODY:
I will eat less; I will eat only healthy foods. I will thank God for my
body.

10. TODAY I WILL GROW SPIRITUALLUY:
I will spend a little more time in prayer today: I will begin reading
something spiritual or inspirational today; I will find a quiet place
(at some point during the day)!
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Love...

2007-05-25T15:14:00.000+05:30

It gives us meaning,

it hurts us,

but at the same time it keeps us sane.

It is in every touch,

every dream,

every emotion.

And altough we cannot see it, it surrounds us,

it confuses us,

and it complicates our lives in every way possible.

It is the reason we cry, the reason we breathe.

It is really the only reason we have to live and keep living.

With the hope of one day discovering the mystery of

What love is?

And how we too can learn to love

And be loved.

In return.

Devils Most Used Tools

2007-05-25T11:49:00.001+05:30

It was advertised that the devil was going to put his tools up for sale. On the date of the sale, the tools were placed for public inspection; each tool being marked with its sale price.

They were a treacherous lot of implements.. . Hatred, Envy, Jealousy, Deceit, Lying, Pride, and so on.

Laid apart from the rest was a harmless looking tool, that appeared to have been heavily used, and was priced very high.

"What is the name of this tool?" asked one of the purchasers, pointing to it. "That is Discouragement, " replied the devil.

"Why have you priced it so high?"

"Because it is more useful to me than all the others. I can pry open and get inside people's hearts with that when I cannot get near them with my other tools. Once I get inside, I can make them do what I choose. It is badly worn because I use it on almost everyone, since very few people know that it belongs to me."

Never get discouraged! Keep your head up keep the faith!

2007-05-25T10:10:00.001+05:30

Love is when two people touch each other's soul.

Love is honesty and trust.

Love is helping one another

Love is mutual respect.

Love means that differences can be worked out.

Love is reaching your dreams together.

Love is the connection of two hearts,

...yours and mine!

Falling in Love Again...

2007-05-24T10:35:00.001+05:30

Save me a place in your heart.
Let me stay ~ never to part.
You'd be my hero,
By now you should know
That I'll save you a place
In my heart...

Shall I say it over again
To the tune of a gentle refrain?
As we walk in the sun
We'll be as one,
You and I together
Falling in love once again.

Author: Joyce Hemsley

Falling in Love Again...

2007-05-24T10:35:00.000+05:30

In Love

2007-05-24T10:32:00.001+05:30

I profess my heart's love so deep,
The mere thought of you makes me weep.
Even fearing the consequences it may bear,
Of opening my heart to how much I care.

My heart I hand over to you with ease,
Free of walls and doors that need keys,
For it's fallen to fancy and runaway dreams,
You're all I've ever wanted it seems.

The flame grows stronger, the embers bright,
I can't bear to be without you each night,
I want every moment you can spare,
So lost in this love, of all else unaware.

Not caring about tomorrow or the next day through,
All that matters are the moments I spend with you,
You fill my heart and set my spirit free,
You bring back a dying life lost to me,
How beautiful is your love,
You are everything my heart dreams of.

Author: Pires

What is this I'm Feeling?

2007-05-24T10:27:00.000+05:30

What is this I'm feeling?
From oh so far away
That has captured my heart
In an oh so subtle way.

I have never felt it
Quite this way before
So quietly soothing
My emotional core.

Something it's different
Somehow I know
What I am feeling
Is starting to show.

Passionate stirrings
From deep down inside
Feelings I've longed for
No longer can hide.

Where can I run to?
Oh where can I hide?
Nowhere..
I've already tried.

The wall I had built
Is crumbling fast
Real or imagined
How long can it last?

Come be my heart song
Let two beat as one
Our hearts together
Will rise like the sun.

Friendship

2007-04-25T09:58:00.000+05:30

Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest
or who came first
or who cares the best.
It's all about who came and never left!

Never Say Forever

2007-04-18T18:56:00.000+05:30

Never say I love you
If you really don't care

Never talk about feelings
If they aren't really there

Never hold my hand
If you're going to break my heart

Never say you're going to
If you don't plan to start

Never look into my eyes
If all you do is lie

Never say hello
If you really mean goobye

Never say forever
If you aren't going to try

Never say forever
'Cause forever makes me cry.

When love ends ~~

2007-04-16T16:29:00.000+05:30

When love ends,
A new pain begins..
An empty feeling,
A broken spirit that needs healing.
Emotions hard to control,
A tattered heart, hard to console.
Dreams so shattered,
Unspoken thoughts left scattered.
No answers to be found..
Only to the pain you are bound.

When love ends,
Misery sets in..
You're left to fight it alone.
Into a battle of heart and mind, you are thrown.
Trying to forget the one in your heart..
While you slowly fall apart.
Drifting away from a love you knew,
Is so much easier to say than to do.
Pain that leaves you feeling drained,
A lonely feeling, hard to explain.

When love ends...
A new pain begins.

Why do i love you

2007-04-16T16:21:00.000+05:30

Why do you hurt me
When u know how much I love u
Why do u leave me alone
When u know how much I need you
Why do I wait for you
W hen I know the wait is gonna be so long
Why do I expect happiness around you
W hen I know this can never happen
Why do I ever hurt you
W hen I know this would bring me pain
Why do I expect so much
W hen I have nothing to return
If love meant to be tears and sorrow
Why do we feel happy in love
Why do we still cherish every moment
That we have spent in love.
I still love u no matter whatever pain it has caused
Will always do the same

I Love You...

2007-04-16T16:13:00.000+05:30

To you my love...

2007-04-16T14:16:00.000+05:30

I give to you
a world filled
with the joys that
togetherness brings

I give to you
the light that
my love makes
in your heart

I give to you
my heart because
you make me
who I am

I give to you
My true love
these things that
make up all that I am

There are many things I want to be
To make you happy and glad
And if you'll let me, I'll be them all
And give you the life you've never had

Let me be your angel
So I can chase away your fears
I'll conquer your demons and fight your monsters
And when they're gone I'll dry your tears

Let me be your sunlight
So I can brighten up your day
I'll warm your heart and make you smile
And you'll laugh and dance and play

Let me be your quiet time
So I can calm your restless soul
I'll comfort you and give you hope
And make you feel whole
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Let me be your lullaby
So I can sing you to sleep each night
I'll give you wonderful magical dreams
And make everything in the world seem right

Let me be your lover
So I can hold you close and say
I'll love you forever, you're the man of my dreams
And I'll never stop feeling this way

There are many things I want to be
To make you happy and glad
But above all else, just let me be yours
And give you the life you've never had

My heart rejoices over you
My heart calls out your name
My heart smiles at every thought of you
My heart permanently dwells in your garden

Yes,your garden so lovely & heavenly
The angels rejoices over this
The angels celebrates my love for you
The angels help nurture my seed of love
A seed that will last a lovetime

Sometimes,I wonder & ponder
How did it ever come to this
My thoughts are completely lost to you
But then does it matter at all
Nah,for I shall always be happy & love the day I met you.

You are very Special
In all ways most kind
My love for you grows
I hope you will find
It's just because

Each time I'm with you
It's hard to let you go
As I whisper good-bye
I walk away very slow
It's just because

As I look into your eyes
In any weather or season
Your smiles warm my heart
There's a special reason
It's just because

Each time we are together
In every place we've been
Whispers of love grow deep
I must repeat once again
It's just because.

My Vow To You...

2007-04-12T13:34:00.000+05:30

When you are sad, I will dry your tears
When you are scared, I will comfort your fears
When you need love, my heart I will share
When you are sick, for you I will care

You will feel my love when we are apart
Knowing that nothing will change my heart
When you are worried, I will give you hope
When you are confused, I will help you cope

When you are lost, and can’t see the light
My love will be a beacon, shining ever so bright
This is my vow, one that I pledge till the end
For you above all are my love of my life and best friend

These words I have written, speak of my love for you
From my lips these words spoken, shall always ring true
I am blessed, and with your hand in mine
Both of our hearts, will forever intertwine

Into all lives, falls pain and sorrows,
I promise together, we will meet all tomorrows
Happy in our relationship, honor and love
blessed in unity by Destiny...

-adapted from poem written by Earl J Dawson Jr.

Instead say try me...

2007-04-11T13:06:00.000+05:30

My love for you is real...

2007-04-10T14:14:00.000+05:30

Life is short...

2007-04-04T15:55:00.000+05:30

Life is Short, so break the rules...
Forgive quickly,
Kiss slowly,
Love truly,
Laugh uncontrollably,
And...
Never regret anything that made you smile...
Every Little Smile can touch Somebody's heart

5 Simple Rules

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Mistakes

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Flaws Within Us

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Which Husband did you marry?

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Is he steady and calm, sweet and loving?
Or simply the sexiest guy you've ever met?
Here's what you need to know for the future – whichever husband you choose...

Most of girls were brought up to believe there was a single entity called a Good Husband.
Yet there are actually two very different kinds of good husbands:
the Boyfriend and the Husband.
The former is everything you've wanted since you were 15:
sexy, spontaneous, irresistible.
He makes you laugh, makes you shiver,
makes you mad as hell.
The thing is, he never quite pictured himself as a husband and father,
and deep down he still doesn't.
When you're trying to explain the concept of equal parenting or
picking up his wet towels from the floor, you wonder:
Did I make the biggest mistake of my life?

The Husband is your best buddy,
a man you can count on to walk the baby at 3 am,
Yes,
sex is more tender than thrilling,
but isn't that to be expected with time?
Still, sometimes you wonder if marriage should have more pizzazz, mystery...

Well, yes.
And Boyfriend husbands should stay home more often, too.
But just as there is no one good marriage,
there is no one good husband:
Even the best have a B side.
But how do you live with your doubts and still love
and nourish the good marriage you've got? Read on...

He's such a bad boy!

From the outside looking in,
all girls envy the Boyfriend Marriage –
and from the inside out, it does feel as good as it looks.
Romantic . Spontaneous. Magical. Right.
At its best, it feels the way you were always told marriage should feel.
You will have a rollickingly connected kind of marriage,
like a radio that never gets turned off.
And that's wonderful when the magic is working.
But, if the highs are higher in this marriage ,
the lows are also lower.

Passion
– the glue of the Boyfriend Marriage –
has a downside, and it resides in its very origin:
The flame that fuels it is either unfamiliarity or uncertainty.
And much as girls love our husbands,
t hey do not remain an endless series of brandnew revelations.
Which leaves girls uncertainty,
for the dynamics haven't changed much since your dating days.
The same questions still rivet you,
just beneath the surface of your everyday lives:

How does he feel?

How do you feel?

Is he still attracted to you?

Do you still love him?

But most of the time,
you just love the way your heart jumps
when you first catch sight of him,
the way you feel walking into a room together,
the rightness. Then something happens,
and the balance tips – and you're back to does-he-or-doesn't-he?

He's comfy and cool
There's no question:
Being married to a Husband is easier on the psyche than
being married to a Boyfriend.
Here, the sexual connection evolves out of a steadily growing regard,
an intellectual rapport,
a shared sense of humour and a profound romantic attachment.
One doesn't so much fall in love as walk into it.

The downside of the Husband Marriage ?
The yearning to be swept away by a tidal wave of lust.
And it can feel a lot worse when you're going through a period of doubts ...
or when an actual person comes along who reminds
you of the passion you once knew.

How to love the one you're with

No matter what the style,
good marriages are based on chemistry,
commitment and communication.
And optimism:
It helps to look at your marriage as half full rather than half empty.
Loving your husband and yourself at the same time depends upon
seeing him as clearly as possible,
trying to forgive him for what you see that you wish you didn't,
and trying to live with him in spite of it.

Given how different the Husband Marriage is from the Boyfriend Marriage,
you'd think they'd require vastly different strategies for long-lasting happiness.
Not so. Just don't compare him to your best friend's husband.
Realise that a good marriage has intimacy and independence.
It pays to cultivate a network of friendships and interests outside the marriage.
In the Husband Marriage, you need to find something that stirs
you and allow your enthusiasm to invigorate your marriage.
In the Boyfriend Marriage, you need that independence to nourish
your self-esteem and to see you through rocky times.

Whichever kind of husband you married, if you want change,
say the experts,
take the initiative.
Don't wait for him to read your mind.
If you want more time for yourself, say so.
If you want a hotter sex life,
make the first move.
And... Stay away from temptation

The rules of friendship

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What you should never do if you want to remain friends with someone

You may meet several people in life who leave an impact on you,
but a true friend is one who sticks by you for as long as you live.
Regardless of how may people you might get acquainted with in life,
the ones who are closest to you will always be your friends.
However, like with any other relationship, friendship is also a give and take.
There are lines that you should not cross if you don't want to lose your friend.
It's true that a friend's love should be unconditional, but let's face it,
if you really go wrong and hurt him or her,
you can't blame them for walking out of your life.
So, to avoid this from happening,
read on to know what you should never do,
if you want to remain friends with someone.

STEAL THEIR LOVE

The worst reason for losing friends is
because of someone from the opposite sex.
If your friend is in love with a man or woman and you steal
their boyfriend or girlfriend you might end up losing your friend.
There are enough men and women out there; you don't need to
destroy your friend's relationship because you want their man or woman for yourself.
Your friends' lovers are off bounds so don't go
down that road and risk losing a friendship.

UNHEALTHY COMPETITION

A fair amount of competitiveness is good for the system and is even
healthy as it motivates one to do better.
But if the only reason you are competing is because you want
to prove a point that you are the best, then stop yourself.
If you are always trying to outdo your friend at
what he or she does only to make yourself feel better,
watch out, your friend might find someone else to replace you.
No one wants to play games and beat the other all the time.
Friendship is being on the same team and not fighting against each other.

GET NASTY ABOUT THEIR FAMILY

Talking about your friend's family or interfering in their family affairs
will definitely cause a break up.
It is perfectly ok for you to be concerned
about your friend's family but don't get meddlesome.
You can always give advice,
if he or she asks for it and be there to support them,
but don't get judgemental. It is after all
his or her family and you need to respect that.

MOCKERY

If your friend is going through rough times or is feeling less confident
than usual because of a mistake they made at work, don't laugh at them.
Regardless of how silly the problem might seem to you,
if it is affecting your friend, joking about it will make him or
her resent you. Instead be positive and encourage them to do better.
Remember that it is your friend and he or she would have done the same for you.

NO GOSSIP

When your friend confides in you about something that is very
personal to him or her and asks you to keep it confidential — do so.
Gossiping about your friend might lead to distrust and he or she might
never share another thing with you.
Avoid talking about your friend's secrets to other people .
Friendship is about trust and if he or she can't trust you,
there is no basis for your friendship.

DON'T DITCH

If someone has planned a weekend away or a day trip and you agreed to join them,
you cannot cancel at the last minute,
unless you are really ill or there is a really big crisis .
If you didn't want to go you should let him or her know from the start.
Don't make plans and then cancel because there are other people who depend on you.
So if you give your word, stick to it.

HOLD A GRUDGE

It is only natural that two people, who are close to each other,
will at some point in time fight. This does not mean you hold
something against him or her for as long as you live.
Learn to forgive and forget.
If it is an issue that can be resolved, take some time talk to your
friend in a mature manner and work things out.
Losing a friend over an argument is just not worth it!

I Love You :*

The Game of Love

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Have You Really Loved A Woman???

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To really love a woman, to understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought, see every dream
And give her wings when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman
When you love a woman you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'cause she needs somebody to tell her, that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman?
To really love a woman, let her hold you
Till you know how she needs to be touched
You've gotta breathe her, really taste her
Till you can feel her in your blood
And when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman

When you love a woman you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'cause she needs somebody to tell her, that you'll always be together
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman?
You got to give her some faith, hold her tight
A little tenderness, gotta treat her right
She will be there for you, takin' good care of you
You really gotta love your woman
When you love a woman you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
'cause she needs somebody to tell her, that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman?
Tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman?
So tell me have you ever really, really really ever loved a woman?

^^ Friends Forever ^^

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Dedication to Love ....

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What Makes a Dad?

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God Took strength of a mountain,
The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun,
The calm of a quiet sea,

The generous soul of nature,
The comforting of night,
The wisdom of ages,
The power of the Eagles Flight,

The joy of a morning in the spring,
The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity,
The depth of a family need,

Then God combined those Qualities,
When there was nothing more to add,
He knew his masterpeice was complete ,
And so, he called it DAD .. !

Love Note

2007-03-09T15:10:00.000+05:30

What's Love Got to do With it?

Every Cinderella longs to find her Prince Charming and live happily ever after.

We all want to fall in love. Why?

Because that experience makes us feel completely alive.
Our emotions get magnified, senses get heightened,
and we are flying in seventh heaven.

It may only last a moment, an hour,
a day, but that doesn't diminish its value....

But are you sure it's love that we are talking about?

Why do independent, smart women become
emotional wrecks after a romantic break-up?

Why do older men gravitate towards younger women?

Could it be estrogen and testosterone hormones
that addict us to our lovers?

In terms of mature relationships and love,
most of the times, people fail to distinguish
between the true meaning of love and lust.

Have you ever been sweeped off your feet by a man/woman
standing next to you in a queue?

Is it merely infatuation, a strong shot of chemistry, or budding love - the real thing?

Is Cupid playing a prank or bringing you true love forever?

Love at first sight is not believable.
Love takes time.
Lust at first sight sounds much more accurate.
A study done by testing the blood samples of twenty couples,
who claimed to be madly in love for less than six months,
revealed that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent
to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients.

It's hard to tell if you are in love because there're no set
defining characteristics of love.
The dictionary says it's
"a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection"
or
"a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person."

What exactly is this feeling or attraction?

The question evoked the thought process was surprised that
i had never thought of this aspect of her relationship before.
After much silence she concluded,
"Emotions are not sufficient to suggest whether a relationship is that of love,
no matter how strong the attraction may be."
Sadly, there is not much awareness to distinguish between lust and love
and that is why we have so many emotional and social problems.

Since time immemorial we are hearing that love is blind.
But that's a mistake; real love is not blind.
Quite the opposite, it is a relationship in full awareness.
Over time, through good communication and wisdom,
you can start knowing your partner.
Gradually, you become aware of his/her flaws
and try to work your differences in a healthy way.

Lust, on the other hand, could be perceived
as being "blind" as it usually distorts reality,
especially when you're so involved that you don't care
to find out the real persona of your partner.

According to a psychologist,
we often idolize our partners,
magnify their virtues and find a way to explain their flaws.
This basically happens because many movies,
books and songs paint an unrealistic portrait of love,
which further builds a false perception of love in our minds.

When, a commercial pilot by profession,
was asked whether his six-year-old relationship was based
on love or lust, he was quick to reply,
"Love is full of sacrifices, trust and respect whereas
lust is built on physical attraction, fun and thrills.
Real love is commitment.
I cannot categorize my relationship
as a short sensational affair of love is in the air."

Do some real soul searching today and identify your relationship.
If you're in a relationship which does not have fondness,
respect, affection, devotion along with passion,
it would be wise to back off.
Or else, one day those wonderful romantic feelings will be gone
and you will wonder what happened to your perfect romance.
Accept the fact that you or your partner is not ready for commitment.
After all, commitment is a choice
which is backed up with actions and maturity.

Reflections

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"Who am I today?" I ask..
And I wonder if I even know.
I know the past has shaped me now,
Even though the past was long ago.

The little moments form a blur,
The times both happy and sad,
All the people I once knew,
And the things I used to have.

They all helped me to become
Where, what and who I am now,
Because everything has influenced me,
I'm not sure exactly how.

But I'm thankful for the memories,
Even of the people I've never really met,
For the people I miss, the people I love,
And even the people I'd like to forget.

For these memories have helped me grow,
They've made me calm, yet strong,
And now there's a story to my life,
That they've been writing all along.

So, thank you for the memories.
Without them, I don't know who I'd be -
Because somewhere among these memories
Are the things that define me.

~~~

A Friend Is

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Let me know Now...

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Ready for Love

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Take my hand and lead the way;
tell me all you want to say.

Whisper softly in my ear,
all those things I want to hear.

Kiss my lips and touch my skin;
bring out passions deep within.

Pull me close and hold me near;
take away my pain and fear.

In the darkness of the night,
be my beacon, shine your light.

In the brightness of the sun,
show me that you are the one.

Give me wings so I can fly;
for I can soar when you're nearby.

Enter my heart, break down the wall,
it's time for me to watch it fall.

I've been a prisoner, can't you see?
Break my chains and set me free.

Strip me of my armor tight;
you'll find I won't put up a fight.

Release my soul held deep within . . .
I'm ready now, let love begin.

Whas the "somebody" you?

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Everything I Do...

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I Wish

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Beary Spl Friend

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When we share

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When we share laughter,
There's twice the fun;
When we share success,
We've surpassed what we've done.

When we share problems,
There's half the pain;
When we share tears,
A rainbow follows rain.

When we share dreams,
They become more real;
When we share secrets,
It's our hearts we reveal.

If we share a smile,
That's when our love shows;
If we share a hug,
That's when our love grows.

If we share with someone
On whom we depend,
That person is always
Family or friend.

And what draws us closer
And makes us all care,
Is not what we have,
But the things we share

Wish for you

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You are on my mind

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Thinking of you...

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When I think of you ...
dried leaf become more fragrant
and wild storms become tiny pat on me.

When I dream of you...
the sharpen stones on my way become shining sands
the broken pieces of my mind become glittering stars

When I touch you...
the shining dimples in your cheek
become golden clues
the greedy rosy lips become shivering pegs of wines
and I cant tell you more and more
i want to keep those close to my heart, my mind

You Smile Forever...

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If at times you feel you want to cry
And life seems such a trial
Above the clouds there's a bright blue sky
To make your tears a smile

As you travel on life's way
With its many ups and downs
Remember it's quite true to say
One smile is worth a dozen frowns

Among the world's expensive things
A smile is very cheap
And when you give a smile away,
You get one back to keep

Happiness comes at times to all
But sadness comes unbidden
And sometimes a few tears must fall
Among the laughter hidden

So when friends have sadness on their face
And troubles round them piled
The world will seem a better place
And all because you smiled...

Premant Padne Sop Nast

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~~ If One Day ~~

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If one day you feel like crying...
Call me.
I don't promise that I will make you laugh,
But I can cry with you.

If one day you want to run away--
Don't be afraid to call me.
I don't promise to ask you to stop...
But I can run with you.

If one day you don't want to listen
to anyone...
Call me.
I promise to be there for you.
And I promise to be very quiet.

But if one day you call...
And there is no answer...
Come fast to see me.
Perhaps I need you..

Friends Forever

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Sometimes in life, you find a special friend;

Someone who changes your life

just by being part of it.

Someone who makes you laugh

until you can't stop;

Someone who makes you believe

that there really is good in the world.

Someone who convinces you

that there really is an unlocked door

just waiting for you to open it.

This is Forever Friendship.

My Promise to You...

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When you are sad.....I will dry your tears.

When you are scared....I will comfort your fears.

When you are worried.....I will give you hope.

When you are confused.....I will help you cope.

And when you are lost....And can't see the light, I shall be your beacon.....Shining ever so bright.

This is my oath.....I pledge till the end.

Why you may ask?.....Because you're my friend.

Tomorrow can be too Late...

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If you're mad with someone and nobody's there to fix the situation... You fix it. Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend. And if u doesn’t, tomorrow can be too late.

If you're in love with somebody, but that person doesn't know...
tell her/him. Maybe today, that person is also in love with you. And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late.

If you still love a person that you think has forgotten you...
tell her/him. Maybe that person has always loved you. And if you don't tell her/him today, tomorrow can be too late.

If you need a hug of a friend... ask her/him for it.
Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for it today, tomorrow can be too late.

If you really have friends who you appreciate.. . tell them. Maybe they appreciate you as well. That if you don't and they leave or go far away today, tomorrow can be too late.

If you love your parents, and never had the chance to show them... do it. Maybe you have them there to show them how you feel. That if you don't and they leave today, and then tomorrow can be too late.

I Dont Want You To...

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Happy Valentines Day ...

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Valentines day.. celebrated not just by lovers but all loved ones..

Wishing all Very Happy Valentines Day :)
:*

Two Hearts

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Personality Disorder Test Results

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Disorder	Rating
Paranoid Disorder:	Low
Schizoid Disorder:	Low
Schizotypal Disorder:	Low
Antisocial Disorder:	Low
Borderline Disorder:	Low
Histrionic Disorder:	Moderate
Narcissistic Disorder:	Moderate
Avoidant Disorder:	Low
Dependent Disorder:	Moderate
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder:	Low
-- Personality Disorder Test - Take It! -- -- Personality Disorders --

Love Is...

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Love is when some one breaks your heart and most amazing thing is ...

.. you still love them with every broken piece...

Silent Love

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From the very Begining, the girl's family
objected strongly on her dating this guy. Saying that
it has got to do with family background,& that the
girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if
she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel
very often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but
she always ask him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy is not good with his words, this
often cause the girl to be very upset. With that & the
family's pressure, the girl often vent her anger on
him. As for him, he only endure it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally
graduated & decided to further his studies in
overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl:
"I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that
I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you
for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try
my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed, & with the guy's
determination, the family finally gave in & agreed to
let them get married. So before he leave, they got
engaged.

The girl went out to the working society,
whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies.
They sent their love through emails & phone calls.
Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work,
she was knocked down by a car that lost control. When
she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She
realised that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum
crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized
that all that could come out of her mouth was just a
sigh. She has lost her voice......

The doctors says that the impact on her brain
has caused her to lose her voice. Listening to her
parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from
her, she broke down.

During the stay in hospital, besides silence
cry,.....it' s still just silence cry that companied
her. Upon reaching home, everything seems to be the
same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone. Which
pierced into her heart everytime it rang. She does not
wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden
to him, she wrote a letter to him saying that she does
not wish to wait any longer.

With that, she sent the ring back to him. In
return, the guy sent millions & millions of reply, and
countless of phonecalls,. . all the girl could do,
besides crying, is still crying....

The parents decided to move away, hoping that
she could eventually forget everything & be happy.

With a new environment, the girl learn sign
language & started a new life. Telling herself
everyday that she must forget the guy. One day, her
friend came & told her that he's back. She asked her
friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since
then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year has passed & her friend came with an
envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's
wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the
letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what's
going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He
used sign language telling her "I've spent a year's
time to learn sign language. Just to let you know that
I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance
to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped
the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled

Love Is Never Silent

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-=-=-=-=-=-= -
by David L. Griffith
A loving heart, a gentle smile,
a warm and tender touch,
We give so many things in life
but nothing means as much.
A little inspiration
when someone loses hope,
A kind word of encouragement
when they no longer seem to cope.
A simple phrase, "I love you"
when no one else is there,
Taking hold onto a hand
in a little heartfelt prayer.
Love is never silent,
it has so much to say,
And it is our greatest blessing
when we give it all away.