HOW TO MAKE HER FANCY YOU

Thursday, April 13, 2006 | Relationships | MUMBAI MIRROR | YOU

Most men have it all wrong when it comes to enticing women. They use the worst of strategies like pick-up lines and end up spoiling it all for themselves. The reason being that women are experts at sensing who is a real man under the surface… and if you aren't the type of guy she's looking for, no “pickup line” is going to cover it up. In order to get women to like you, you need to improve the real you instead of sticking to the same old approach that usually backfires. Here are some tips to help you do that.


Lead the Way

Women hate it when a man is afraid to
lead the way... whether it's choosing a restaurant or what they would want to do. Women don't like to bear the burden of making decisions. To develop the leader within you, practice leading the interaction. Decide where to go, when to meet her and what the two of you will do. Be the “man with the plan” – she'll love you for it.


Learn from the Best

Maturity is one quality that all women seek in their man. One way to develop a mature perspective is to be around older and wiser people, like your father, and discuss with them what matters in life. They will be able to add a better perspective to things the way you see it.

Take responsibility for your life While on the path to becoming the type of man a woman wants, you have to learn to take personal responsibility for everything in your life. Notice how the choices you made in the past led you to where you are; and whenever you find yourself in a messed-up situation, stop blaming others. Look at how your choices have gotten you there. Refusing to be a victim is a sure-fire way to a fulfilling life and might also help you stand out from the other guys she has met in the past.


Learn to keep your Power

Most men give away their power to a woman to get their approval and attention, or they let people just walk all over them. The ironic thing is that women don’t want men who give away their power! It's a huge turnoff to them. Women like powerful and reliable men who can take a stand when required. They feel safe with them as they know that such men will be able to take care of them. So when you learn to keep your power, you will attract stronger and better women.


Allow yourself to Grieve

Most men are taught to act tough and to conceal their feelings. And since the first feeling that comes up for men in emotional situations is grief, men have been conditioned to “slam the door” as soon as the grief starts. But a real man learns to grieve consciously... to let the grief in. He knows it's a healthy process. When you allow yourself to feel grief when it comes up, you open the door to a much richer emotional life. Think about times in your past when you have stopped yourself from feeling grief. The next time it starts to present itself, remember to allow yourself to feel it. In the process, you'll become a more emotionally well-rounded guy – the kind of man that “has it together”, understand emotions and someone who is not insensitive, and that is one quality women absolutely love.


Continue to Learn

To truly become a man who naturally attracts women, you must continually work to improve yourself. Read books, go to seminars, talk to people and listen with an open mind, and take action; do whatever it takes to continually add to your knowledge base and make yourself a better person. Just the fact that you are on this journey can be very attractive to most women. When you are truly on the path to success, women will feel it when they are around you.

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